How Good Can It Get

I used to believe growth came from pushing harder.
This week, I've been redefining growth as capacity expansion: the capacity to hold more of my own truth and to stay with myself when life gets full. That definition leads to a better question. If growth is capacity, what actually expands it?
In this episode, I share my answer in two parts.
The first is environment. So many of us leave a job that hurt us and then keep living in the conditions that caused the hurt. When the same patterns show up again, we blame ourselves. Changing the conditions around you creates room for growth that willpower alone can't force.
The second is the promises we keep to ourselves. As a former employment attorney, I think of these as the unspoken contracts we have with ourselves. Self-trust gets built one honored term at a time, and every small promise kept tells you that you can count on yourself. That trust is the fuel that lets you hold more.
I also share what these two rules look like in my life right now, as physical health becomes my number one priority after some eye-opening news.
This episode explores:
Why growth needs the right conditions before it needs more effort
How work wounds keep us stuck in old environments, even after we leave
Small environmental shifts you can make right where you are, without burning it all down
Self-trust as a contract you build with yourself, one kept promise at a time
Why quiet growth, like a doctor's appointment or a boundary no one notices, still counts
If your growth looks quiet right now, I see you. This weekend, choose one small promise to yourself that you know you'll keep. Then keep it, and notice what it feels like to be someone you can count on.
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I'm becoming suspicious of the way I've defined growth for most of my life.
For 20 years, I lived inside reports. As managing partner, COO, and chief strategy officer, I watched revenue, headcount and expense trends, and the "successful" direction of every line was up. Flat meant a problem. A sharp decline meant a crisis.
Somewhere along the way, I started measuring my own life the same way. More clients meant better. A fuller calendar meant I was growing. Anything that slowed down felt like falling behind. I carried that pattern right into my work as founder and Editor in Chief of Executive Unschool.
This week, after so many of you responded to Wednesday's letter, I wanted to keep exploring this in real time. I don't have it all figured out.
What I do have is a new definition that's been coming online for me over the past few months: growth as capacity expansion. Capacity to hold more of my own truth. Capacity to stay with myself when things get hard. Sometimes that means adding something, and sometimes it means clearing space.
This episode explores:
The invisible architecture behind how we define growth, and how much of it comes straight from balance sheets
How the ABCs (agreements, beliefs, conditioning) from years of work shape what we call "success"
Why chasing more can be one of the sneakiest forms of self-abandonment
Clearing space as growth, including what I let go of before September's new moon
Steady seasons, flat lines and decisions made from self-trust
If your growth right now looks quiet or steady, or even like a season of contraction, I hope this gives you another way to measure it.
Ambition is beautiful. Big, audacious goals are the essence of how good it can get. Let's make sure our measures of growth include how we actually feel.
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I know what it feels like when the thing you built becomes the thing you have to leave.
Ashlei Rolloff got the email on her day off. The million-dollar agency she had built was being divested and spun out to her. On paper, it was a gift. Inside, it showed her how much of her worth had been tied to her VP title and her output.
In this episode, Ashlei shares the grief that came in waves and the very specific ways she has rebuilt since, including a sovereign morning and a last hour of the day that belongs to her alone.
The beauty in her story is this: the exit opened a new door, and the healing work is what let her walk through it.
This episode explores:
What happens in the body when a work identity ruptures overnight
The healing practices Ashlei layered over time
Using Human Design to build a calendar that prevents burnout
Early warning signs, and permission to be unapologetically you
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Friend, if you're in that in-between season, I hope this conversation helps you feel less alone. How good can it get?
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I signed up for something a few weeks ago that my body was already saying no to... and I said yes anyway.  
Fresh off the Growth Day Conference, I've been sitting with the word growth. Somewhere across 20-plus years of work, I started treating growth and more as the same thing. More clients, more partnerships, more posts, more speaking engagements, all stacked on top of what I already carry.  
Then a founder archetype survey from my fractional finance advisor stopped me cold. I'm building as three different founder archetypes, running three different businesses at once.
As an Enneagram 3, I believe I'm capable of a lot. Building three startups at the same time is a different question, and it explains why I can cross off half my to-do list and still end the day feeling behind.  Here's my reframe: when you choose contraction on purpose, that counts as growth too.  
This episode explores:  
How "more" became my default definition of growth
The founder archetype survey that showed me I'm building three businesses at once
Why addition feels safest when we've learned to earn our worth at work
What autumn teaches us about seasons of subtraction
The pause I'm practicing before every yes, plus the two questions I ask in it  
If you're in a season where everything you're carrying looks good on paper and still feels heavy, take one minute today. Name one area where "more" has been running the show. Then ask what would actually serve your highest good. Letting something go can be the most growth-forward move you make this fall.  
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I've drafted email replies in my head while someone I love was telling me about the best moment of their day. Guilty.
Maybe you've been there too. You walk through the front door (or up the stairs, if you work from home) and realize you never actually left work. Your body is home, and your mind is still in the 3:00 meeting, rewriting what you should have said. Then the shoes and backpack in the entryway set you off, and deep down you know the shoes were never the point.
Research on how people recover from work shows that heavy workloads make it harder to mentally detach during time off. So the weeks you need a real break the most are the weeks your brain holds on the tightest. And with work living in our pockets, the natural boundary between the workday and the rest of your life has disappeared. We have to build that boundary ourselves.
In this episode, I'm sharing how to recognize the signals that it's time to reset, plus two practices that help: micro-recoveries during the day and a clean break at the end of it.
Listening back, here's my reframe: rest is something you build in before you feel you've earned it.
This episode explores:
Why the moments we most need to regulate are often the moments we're least likely to notice
Real-life signs you've brought work home, from the dinner-table email to the tired-but-wired scroll at 11 p.m.
How your body signals it's time to reset (a clenched jaw, shoulders up by your ears, breath that stays high in your chest)
Micro-recoveries: what 22 studies on short breaks reveal, and why these breaks are for you more than for your productivity
Building a clean break at the end of the day, so your nervous system can learn to trust that work is done
Your invitation for today is simple. Pick one signal you know shows up for you, and when you notice it, let it be your cue for a micro-recovery. Then tonight, try one clean break. You've done enough for today, friend.
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This week felt heavier than most, and I don't want to pretend otherwise.
Every time I opened a news app, there was another story where something went terribly wrong for a woman, and the people who were supposed to help...didn't. None of those stories were mine. And my body carried them all week anyway.
In this  episode with our new, shorter format, I'm naming what I believe gets activated in moments like these: institutional betrayal. It's what happens when the systems we were taught to trust (healthcare, the courts, our workplaces) fail to be the safety net we counted on. I learned how long that betrayal lingers years before I had language for it, back when I was an employment attorney and thousands of people called our firm to tell us how the places they worked had let them down.
Listening back, here's what I hope you hear. Feeling heavy right now makes sense, and you still have a next right step available to you.
This episode explores:
Why your body can carry stories that technically aren't yours
Institutional betrayal, and why it has such a long memory
How small moments of betrayal stack into stuckness and apathy
One next right step you can take, even when the headlines feel relentless
Unschooling the agreements you never consciously signed, and getting clear on what stops with you
If this week has felt like pushing a boulder uphill, friend, you're in good company. Take what's useful, rest where you need to, and let me know what stops with you.
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I came back from a summer that expanded me in ways I'm still catching up to, and the first thing I felt was a pull to make sure I wasn't leaving any of you behind.
Before I tell you where we're going, let me tell you where I've been. This summer held executive retreats I got to lead, a hypno-breathwork Level Two certification, and a whole lot of work that stretched what I thought I was capable of.
Somewhere in the middle of all that expansion, one question kept finding me on stages and on other people's podcasts: what do you do in the season of the whisper?
You know the whisper. You're an accomplished woman whose career still works on paper. You're hitting your numbers, running the room, leading your people, carrying the things no one else thinks to carry. Nothing looks broken. And still, something in you has quietly stopped consenting to the way you've been doing it.
For a long time we've been told that feeling is burnout. I've come to believe it's something more honest than burnout. You've outgrown an arrangement you signed up for without fully knowing it.
Outgrowing something doesn't mean you hate it. I loved so much of my fifteen years in law and the firm I co-founded, the clients, the work, the beautiful moments I probably don't talk about enough. My standards changed. My body changed. My definition of a good life changed. And the fit changed right along with them.
Here's the reframe I keep coming back to: this isn't a repair job. You're not broken, you're becoming aware. And once you see the pattern at work, you cannot unsee it in the rest of your life.
This episode explores:
The difference between burning out and outgrowing, and why that one distinction changes everything about what you do next
Why you can be deeply grateful for something and still know, in your body, that it no longer fits who you are
Overfunctioning, "eldest daughter disease," and the moment your competence quietly turns into enabling
How work becomes a laboratory for the patterns running through your whole life, from your calendar to your closest relationships
The parts of yourself you get to reclaim, and why the body often knows you've outgrown something long before the mind will admit it (with a nod to Gay Hendricks and the upper limit problem in The Big Leap)
This is the work we do inside Executive Unschool. We take another look at what we were taught about work, success, power, worth, and wealth. We keep what was wise, and we release the survival strategies we dressed up as best practices. Not to fix anything, but to notice what we've outgrown, find where that same pattern is living everywhere else, and reclaim our way back to ourselves. So wherever your whisper is pointing, start there. Brick by brick.
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I built the thing I most needed, and in this episode I finally lay it all out for you.
There is a version of exhaustion that sleep does not fix. You can leave the job, take the vacation, change the boss, and finally close the laptop at 5:00, and the experiences still go around and around in your head. You still hear the criticism from that meeting. One email lands and your whole body snaps back into alert. You walked away from the place that hurt you, and some part of it walked out with you. That is the territory of Work Recovery.
I spent years as an employment attorney and a C-suite leader, sitting in the rooms where workplace harm gets investigated, defended, negotiated, and quietly explained away. I know the language. I know the frameworks. I know exactly how organizations respond when a woman raises a concern. And I got so sick of watching what women were expected to tolerate that I left to build something different.
In this one, I walk you through what Work Recovery actually is, why rest alone does not finish the job, and the three steps of The Work Recovery Method: Regulate, Rewire, and Reclaim. I share the tools I use, the beliefs I had to unlearn, and the very unglamorous, brick-by-brick process of coming back online after work grinds you down.
Looking back, here is the reframe I keep landing on: Work Recovery is not a bubble bath and it is not a nap. It is how a woman remembers who the fuck she is, and a recovered woman is a whole lot harder to gaslight.
This episode explores:
The kind of exhaustion a vacation cannot touch, and why it follows you home
What a "work wound" really is, and how it quietly rearranges your relationship with yourself
Why rest matters and still is not enough on its own to heal what work did
The three steps of The Work Recovery Method: Regulate, Rewire, and Reclaim
The self-discovery tools I love in the Reclaim phase, including Enneagram, human design, and astrology
How raising your own standards teaches the world what it can ask of women
If you have been quietly wondering whether you need this, let that wondering be your answer. Sometimes the exhaustion is information. Sometimes the anger is information. And sometimes "I cannot keep doing this" is the first honest sentence you have said to yourself in years.
Come sit with me for this one, and let's start laying bricks.
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I really wish someone had handed me this one question earlier in my career, back when I was climbing and striving and sure that the next title would finally make me feel like myself.
How good can it get?
I say it all the time on this show, and coming back from the most wonderful summer, I realized I've never fully explained what I mean by it. So this episode goes back to basics. This phrase stuck in my soul about two years ago, when I needed something to hold onto that reminded me of all the good in my life even while things were genuinely hard. It has become the question that drives every decision I make now, including how quickly I reset when something doesn't go my way.
For so many of us, especially the women listening, success used to be easy to read. There were milestones and titles and a roadmap the corporate world happily kept handing us. Climb, reach for the next rung, repeat. That formula can build an impressive resume while your own desires and the things that actually light you up go missing from the picture.
Listening back to my own story, here's the reframe. How good can it get is a reality-based question. It asks what else might be possible inside the life you already have, even on the days something doesn't go your way.
This episode explores:
What I actually mean when I say "how good can it get," and why it's more serious than it sounds
Why so many high achievers keep a low internal "thermostat" for good, and how to raise it
The reason ease and contentment can feel more suspicious than struggle
How to grow your capacity to receive a good life, not only to build one
Why this question keeps evolving as you do, and the permission that comes with it
If your hard work has ever felt like it should speak for itself, or if you've been quietly bracing for the next shoe to drop right when life gets good, start here. You don't have to burn everything down. You might just need to ask one honest question about one place in your life, and stay with it longer than feels comfortable.
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I really wish someone had told me this earlier in my career: working harder isn't necessarily what moves you forward.
For so many of us, especially women, we inherited a simple formula. Keep your head down, do great work, and eventually someone will notice. But as Giselle Marcus and I talk about in this conversation, career growth has an invisible side that many of us were never taught.
It's relationships. It's being known for what you do. It's having people who will speak your name when you're not in the room. And it's investing in people before you need something from them.
Listening back, I have a different reframe for this conversation. It's less about "networking" and more about refusing to build your career alone.
This episode explores:
Why excellent work alone doesn't always move your career forward
How to build meaningful relationships instead of collecting connections
Practical ways to network without pretending to be someone you're not
What makes mentorship and professional relationships genuinely reciprocal
How curiosity and connection can help us become more inclusive leaders
Giselle Marcus brings decades of experience in leadership, operations, networking, mentorship, and relationship building to this conversation. She shares practical ideas for building a network that actually supports you, from following up intentionally to making thoughtful asks and staying connected over time.
If you've ever wondered why your hard work doesn't always seem to speak for itself, or if the idea of networking makes you want to hide in the corner, start here. You don't have to become more performative. You might just need to stop trying to do it all alone.
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